I always get private messages asking me how one would know when one finds one’s life partner
The response is simple. There really isn’t a laid down rule to this but the basic way to pick the right partner is by finding yourself.
When you know who you are and what you intend to achieve in life, it would be easy to know who to propose to or say yes to. You will naturally be with someone whom you know can fit into your world.
For instance, if you are working towards being the future president of Nigeria, the kind of lady to marry is one with a large heart who can be a mother to all; if you intend owning a big business you will look for a woman with great managerial skills who would ensure your empire does not crumble.
A lady who intends to get to the top of her career should not marry a man who cares less about careers. The examples are countless.
Notice here that the focus is on SUBSTANCE more than the outward appearance. A lot of people have made the mistake of just picking a partner.
Although material achievement is not all there is to marriage, but marriage must be based on purpose and when purpose is not known then abuse is inevitable.
Most of the misunderstandings in homes today are avoidable if we understand this from the very beginning. Who complements you in a major way? Division is simply 2 different visions. You and your partner can only be united if you are both going the SAME way (though you can follow different paths) or you both understand where the family must head towards because one of the strengths of a home is UNITY.
So, the deal is, FIND yourself. What do you want to be? What do you want from life? And when you find someone that can walk your dream with you and you love the person, say yes or propose.
Remember if you do not stand for something, you will likely fall for everything and I dare add “anything”
Choose wisely for a better Nigeria!!!
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